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Review – Tantus Fantasy Gag

This is much bigger than it looks.  I have huge hands.

Behold! The Gaggy Goodness!

So many things about this gag make me happy.

It is phallic (think I already covered that one).  It is made from pure, smooth silicone.  As anyone who has ever had a sub-par gag shoved in their mouth will know, this means a lot.  I once had someone use a nasty cheap ball gag on me, which left not only a gross taste but also made my lips and tongue slightly numb.  Who knows what chemicals were in that thing, but they certainly were not body-safe and I do not remember this person stating “chemical burns – giving” as one of their kinks.

Silicone is ideal for toys that are going to be inserted anywhere, including the mouth.  I am much more careful these days, since I now know that I have some chemical sensitivities but really, NO ONE should be putting toys of unknown composition into any orifices.  When you choose silicone you are choosing something that can be sanitized by boiling, putting through the dishwasher, or cleansing with a bleach solution.  This is particularly important if you are sharing toys or if you are using toys in different holes (for example, a dildo you use in your anus and your vagina).

I originally got this as a Christmas gift from Master.  I thought, “Aw, what a cute little wee cock.”  I was surprised by how NOT-little it felt after it had been in my mouth just a short time.  The insertable part measures 3″ long and about 5 1/4″ around at its widest point.  That is plenty of length and girth for my mouth!

Like, I cant buy hats.  Seriously.

Oh, and also? I have a HUGE head.

The density of the silicone has a nice rubbery give to it.  It feels flexible when I suck on it, but is resilient to moderate biting.  This is relevant if you are doing any kind of heavier impact or pain play while you are wearing it.  I, for one, tend to bite down reflexively if I am wearing a gag during heavier punishment scenes.  If you bite REALLY hard, it is possible to leave faint tooth marks, but that’s about it.  I’ve already had this over a year and it’s held up well.

I tend to drool a lot with gags in general, which is pretty common according to my informal survey of people I know.  If you or your partner find drool a turn-on, this is a GREAT gag for you.  Saliva everywhere!

As filling as I find this, it does not muffle sound much at all.  It does, however, make it impossible to speak, since it is filling enough to get in the way of my tongue.  If you want to make someone scream and moan but take away their ability to say anything, again, this is an excellent choice.  Since the person wearing it won’t be able to use words, it is best to set up a safe signal (rather than a safe word) before you begin.

The strap snaps off for cleaning, and fastens with Velcro.  I do like that the strap is removable, since that makes sanitizing the gag much easier.  But the velcro itself is my only complaint.  I just don’t like it.  It gets caught on hair and fabric if I am not careful, and I prefer buckles.  That could be easily fixed by just  . . . putting a new strap on it.  Most leather workers could do that.  This is a personal preference of mine, and I realize it is a minor complaint.  And to be fair. velcro does have its advantages.  In the event that it needs to be taken off fast due to any kind of breathing issues, gagging (not the good kind), or if the person wearing it is suddenly NOT OKAY, velcro is a good safety choice.  And no matter how “light” the bondage you are using seems, safety still needs to be something you consider before any play happens.

That said, this gag probably not a good choice for anyone with a sensitive gag reflex.  In my mouth, it barely reaches the soft palate, but I do have a big mouth.  People who have an easily stimulated gag reflex, or who are new to gags and are not sure, would probably be best off starting with a bit gag or a ball gag, since neither of those fill up the mouth as deeply.

Long-term wear might also be difficult for anyone with TMJ.  I suggest trying a bit gag if you have any issues with your jaw, since it won’t stretch it as much.  My own jaw does get tired and start to lock up, but only when we get close to the hour mark.

As a final note, as vain as it may sound, I have never liked the way my face looks WIN_20150331_104520when I am wearing a ball gag.  This gag does stretch my mouth open quite a lot, but since most of the gag is hidden away inside the appearance of it is surprisingly demure.

The funny thing is, I never knew what it looked like while I was wearing it until I went to take some pictures for this review!  Even though Master has used it many times since He got it, I have never been near a mirror, and looking at it has always been the furthest thing from my mind when we are using this gag.  I just took these today and was all, “Huh, that does look better!”

The verWIN_20150331_104555sion I have of this is in the “Cocoa” color Tantus offers, but when I went to check their site it looks like right now this is only available in black.   Which is great, it goes with everything!

If you love phallic objects, silicone, and gagging your partner/being gagged by your partner, I wholeheartedly recommend this one.  It’s a favorite of mine, and will be seeing plenty of use in years to come.

Sausage party in my toybox!

Every time I hear someone haul out the old “The male body is not attractive/penises are silly looking/women are not visual” trifecta, I wince.  I mean, if you personally are not into penises and how they look, that’s cool.  But some people make these statements as if they are gospel truth.  And none of this is true in my world – I love cocks, which I don’t find at all strange since I am sexually attracted to men.

This is why I have so many realistic toys in my collection.  From a visual standpoint, I love the way a well-proportioned cock looks.  Handling a dildo shaped like one can add an extra layer of arousal for me when I am playing;  stroking it, licking and sucking it is more exciting because of the obvious nature of it.  There are a lot of beautiful toys that could be displayed as modern art on your mantelpiece and I own and love some of those, but the blatantly sexual nature of something that is obviously a rampant cock delights me.

That’s great, but you don’t just buy toys to LOOK AT, right?

Right!  The best part is when I get to play with these things!  The texture of the newer dual density toys (such as Tantus’ O2 line) is enjoyable to me since it has a softer outer layer and a denser core.  When I got my first one, I think I spent about 10 minutes just fondling and squeezing it.  I was torn between REALLY wanting to put it inside myself and being so intrigued with the texture I kept giving it a handjob.  I did make it in and it was great!  No matter how much I like looking at it, no matter how neat it feels in my hand, it has to also feel good in my vagina if it’s going to be the right dildo for me.  Here again, the cocks are a big win.  I like to feel a bit of a stretch, so a rounded head generally feels better to me going in.  I like a lot of thrusting, and prefer a larger area of pressure on my g-spot and further back closer to my cervix (the area more recently called the “A-spot” or “AFE”).  Sometimes toys that are too tapered at the tip can feel stabby once they are inside me.

WIN_20150330_101806I will always be up for trying new shapes and new designs.  But the good old, realistic dildo is a tried and true one for me, so I will always have a place for them in my collection, and in my body.



Modeling Superstition (Which I Invented)

Recently I had the opportunity to work with French Chris on a rope shoot, which I was very excited about since rope is something I have been enjoying for quite a while in my personal life and I’d been wanting to do some modeling with it.  Sure, that brings up the inevitable “what if I get really, really horny during this shoot?” thoughts, but I can totally deal with that by now.

What I did not think about was, “What if a small appliance eats my hair just when I am trying to get pretty?”

Well, I should have been worried!  This hotel hair dryer was the culprit:

This hair dryer.  This fucking hair dryer.

This hair dryer. This fucking hair dryer.

There I was, just innocently drying my hair after a nice shower the morning of the shoot.  Then, my hair was being pulled – and not in a fun way – as the hair dryer crept closer to my scalp.  I yelped, as you do when you are surprised by an attack appliance, and switched it off.  Master had to come cut me free with His utility knife.

This is not the first time I have had an unfortunate pre-shoot incident.  One time, the night before a shoot one of my kitties jumped on my face (all the cat people reading this are nodding and chuckling, while all the non-cat people are thinking, “how does that even happen?”) and left a long scratch right down my nose.  I had an awesome shoot.  Another time, a houseguest overstayed their welcome and I got about two hours of sleep the night before a shoot, and that shoot also went quite well.

So by now, I am like, “Bring it on, unlikely yet minor physical mishaps!  You will only make me stronger!”

French Chris was just great to work with.  And he is legitimately French, with the accent and everything.  My friend and co-model Solestria was there, and although this was our first time working together we clicked right away, so there was good shoot chemistry all around.

When I got the pictures back I felt like the locks of hair I sacrificed were a worthy price to pay indeed.


Photo: French Chris 2015